(A
DONA International Postpartum Doula Topic Sheet)
The
birth of each baby has a long-lasting impact on the physical and
mental health of the mother, baby and family. The way in which the
woman, baby, partner and family transition into a new unit have a
long-lasting impact on their physical and emotional health.
In
traditional societies, women and men grow up around birth,
breastfeeding, infants and children. After giving birth, women are
surrounded by caring family members who have a great deal of
experience and wisdom to offer. This kind of help is rarely available
to new parents in many societies today. The doula's support is
intended to fill the gaps left by our postpartum traditions, which
usually include only medical procedures, occasional checkups and the
purchase of baby-related paraphernalia. The doula's education, quiet
support and guidance are a manifestation of traditional postpartum
support that many cultures are missing.
There
are many ways in which the doula's support benefits fathers. Research
has proven that mothers and babies have an easier transition with
support. However, fathers experience great life transitions of their
own at this time and may not be able to be the primary provider of
the transitional support their families need. Fathers are redefining
their roles; they may also be adjusting to sleep deprivation,
financial pressures and other stressors, as well.
The
doula's support is for the father as much as the mother or children.
A sympathetic ear, source of encouragement, gentle educator and
friend is something from which we could all benefit throughout our
lives. The postpartum doula provides all of these during this
defining life experience.
The
doula can also help the father to learn the art of mothering the
mother, increasing chances for success in areas such as breastfeeding
and reduction of postpartum depression. Rather than being told to
help out, partners and other family members benefit from concrete
instruction and role-modeling on how to support a woman during the
weeks after birth.
The
importance of the father's involvement and support during the weeks
following birth cannot be overstated. During this time he truly
becomes a parent, getting to know this tiny, yet complete, person who
has entered his family. The doula can ease this introduction, helping
the father to discover all he can about his baby, as well as develop
his own concept of himself as a parent. In addition, the doula's
support can help parents to adjust their own relationship, moving
forward to enhance their previous life together as a couple who are
now parents.
The
role of the doula is to help the family experience success. She does
this with quiet, reassuring support for all family members. By
dedicating herself to the family in this way, the doula validates and
enhances the parents' intuitive ability to nurture and encourages
them to become confident to develop and implement their own parenting
style.